Do you have apprehension about going on a first date with someone? If you do, rest assured that many others do as well.
Fortunately, there are tried-and-true methods for relieving stress before going on that dreaded first date!
Consider the following ideas before your next first date:
- Be truthful to yourself. Allow yourself time to decide whether you actually want to go before agreeing to the date. Sometimes you merely go on a date because a friend or family member asks you to.
• When it comes to dating, use your own discretion. Determine whether you want to go based on what is best for you at the time.
- Plan ahead of time for the date. Think about where you want to go if you have the option. What are you going to wear? Choose the clothing and shoes you’ll wear for your date a few days ahead of time.
• Has everything been washed and ironed? Are your shoes in good condition and well-polished? Do you require a haircut?
• The more you prepare ahead of time, the less nervous you will be on that day.
- Be confident in your hygiene. You feel better about yourself when you have good personal hygiene. Groomed and freshly cleaned hair, brushed teeth, and a refreshing shower will help you feel good about yourself and confident on your first date.
• If you know you look good, you’ll be more calm on your date.
- Consider conversation starters before the date. You’re probably at ease talking about yourself, and others are as well. Consider inquiries such as, “What kind of work do you do?” “Where are you originally from?” “How long have you lived in the area?” These kinds of inquiries usually help people relax and start chatting.
- Get to know yourself. Be aware of your own strengths and what you can provide to a relationship.
• For example, employ positive self-talk and say something like, “I have a great sense of humor, a lot of knowledge about my community, and an interesting job.”
- Demonstrate real curiosity. When you see anything fascinating about your date, make a comment or ask them follow-up questions. Making eye contact and nodding as they talk demonstrates that you want to connect with them and learn more about them.
- Think about fascinating subjects to discuss. Consider what’s going on in your town, such as new museums, parks, or restaurants that you could discuss. What has been making national headlines recently?
• Consider anything intriguing you’ve read recently or places you’ve been. Great communication captivates and draws others to you.
• Avoid talking about politics or religion.
- Smile. Smiling makes you feel more at ease. Use your sense of humor to make others laugh. Keep in mind that the other person may be experiencing discomfort and worry as a result of your first date. As a result, a positive attitude and a grin will help both of you.
Once you get beyond the anxieties, first dates can be pleasant, enlightening, and fun. Use these techniques the next time you go on a first date. You’ll be astonished at how much fun you may have if you approach dating with an open mind and good intentions.